Thursday, December 17, 2009

Day 47: More freedom, no sunset on anger, huh???part 2

sun going down on one of the short days of the year

More distinction:
Do not let the sun go down on your anger.

If you live with someone, before you go to sleep, get clear with them so you don’t even have the anger any more.

Set out to see what it would be like to have the anger, as we explored yesterday, and then to “let the anger” go.

This is different than the “be angry but do not sin.” This is letting it leave our life.

Now this line about “do not let the sun set on your anger,” means to know how to undo and let go of anger enough so that at the end of each day you can do this.

But since this book is about a bunch of ways to brighten and wake up your days, waiting to practice/ do/ explore something at the end of the day doesn’t quite cut it.

So all day, that’s our game: do the work of Byron Katie on all anger and see that we can let it wash away in our understanding of the opinion behind our feeling. Let it wash away in our realization of how much pain holding to the opinion creates. Let it wash away in glimpsing and feeling how free we are when we don’t attach to the opinion/ thought/ belief/ story.

Let it wash away, maybe even with laughter, when we discover that we have the same traits, maybe lesser maybe just as much, as whatever we were getting stewed about in another.

Turn around and see that we could treat ourselves better.

Turn around and see, we aren’t perfect at whatever was annoying us in the other.

And then what: well, that’s like a sleep, letting the anger go to sleep.

Or, it’s like a waking up; without the dream of “I was wronged” and the dream of “So and so really being awful” and so on, we can wake up and just be.

So, experience the anger.

Pick how long you’ll do that. Then undo it and move on.

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