The importance of love, 22

How many times can you say

that
love is
important?

As many as you want to.

And that seems a little silly.
And silly is one of the best wrods
in the English language.

Along with land and love and work
and joy and ease and laughter.

It's okay to be silly every once in
a while
and it's good to fall in love
often

preferably with the same person
but if that person dies
or leaves you
or you leave
them,
fall in love with someone else

And can you love someone who leaves
you?
Yes.
And can you love someone you leave?
Very important: yes.
Love them while you are with them
and then love them when any
parting comes.

For half a day.
For a week.
For the rest of your lives.

Why stop loving just
because the roof isn't shared
any more?

And what about marriage?

Marriage is good.
An agreement to share the roof,
come hard times or good, come this or that.

Basically: an agreement to work it
out
if things need to be worked out.

I'm a big fan of working things out
as
foreplay.

Let me repeat that:
I'm a big fan of working things out
as
foreplay.

Not this old theatrical way:
of screaming and arguing and then someone
or both bursting into tears
and then the hugs
and then the sex.

Yikes. That's just a recipe for rewarding
screaming cat fights.

No, the working out of listening:
Oh, that's what you think.
Oh, that's what you feel.
Oh, that's how you see it.
Oh, of course you are right from your point of view
and of course I'm right from my point of view
and we don't have to be so coarse as
to demand that only one of us be right.

Let's both be right.
Let's both be wrong.
Let's both be smart.
Let's both be fools.

Ah, their is so much the same
about us.

We are one,
the human family,
the you and me and our love
family,
the awakening to reality family,

and that's the foreplay.

Waking up to the love
that is there

always
for everyone
when we are awake

and certainly for our mate
if we have one

and for ourselves and the trees
and our dogs and cats
and friends
if we don't

love is important
like breathing

it's always there
and when we remember
and experience it:
it feels like our life
is being lived
as we were meant
to
live

ah
yes

good

Some preliminary thoughts on attending a Landmark Forum "guest night"

Well, I went to the Intro Evening

which with diabolically clever packaging,

was the last 3 hours of a weekend training

people were all whoopie do about their 

training

and for some good reasons

and their last night assignment:

bring in the newbies

and it clearly had 

"worked"

(recall a statement I annoying make now and then,

our three choices as humans:

low grade robots, high grade robots, awake--

worked meant, it appeared to me, radically upgraded robots)

And yet,

and yet,

this work is obvously hugely effective

for those

not having done anything like the work of Byron Katie

or encountered, apparently,

the difference between attachment and non attachment

or story vs not believing the story

or identification with programming vs not identifying

a huge gob of people

had woken up to their pre-judging

and had made phone calls to parents

ex-mates

and so on

apologizing for narrow mindedness

needless to say,

lots of breakthrough

but back to the diabolical

because the "sharing" some of these breakthroughs,

plus the clever pitch that this was an invitation not a demand

and then throwing in some hints about the power of

realizing we are run by our "view" of reality

and the frenzy built

and by the end

the pressure was on:

if you came,

as a guest and didn't sign,

your life was forever lost, you'd blown it,

you really were making a mistake

huge pressure

after the promise of no pressure

I'll talk some in tomorrow's slow sonoma essay

on the difference between trying to push (hard)

someone to give up their story (done in the example time

at the end by Mr Trainer, an ex-Marine with all the 

suitable breakthrouggs)

and Byron Katie's loving the person with and without their

story

and having no attachment to them "getting it"

or 

even 

doing her work

But, if you've come this far,

the thing,

and the way it's set up for a lifetime of associates

and friends who all "get it"

in the way of Landmark speak/ understand/ breakthrough

(dating services, huge crowds, endless keep up with it courses)

reminds me of Moshe in Potent Self

 talking of "great men" in history,

studied in books in school

in exact circumstances to stiffle the originality

and thinking for themselves that made the "great men"

(or women, of course)

the wild weird contraction:

wanting to bring freedom

to a herd

and not giving them the internal experiences

that say

a movement lesson

could give

leaves people in a weird bind

almost a double bind

 a cult devoted to deprogramming you from the ongoing

cult

I'll have to mull it over

because it's fun seeing how useful and effective their 

work is

and how

convoluted the pressure to bring in everyone you know

OR ELSE

is compared to / distinct from the thrust for freedom

and if you are still reading

good,

here's a

story from Denis Leri on Moshe at an EST

thing

and Werner up front ranting about "all you assholes don't

even know how to walk"

and Moshe standing up and walking across the floor

so

Werner

modified:

"All you assholes except one don't know how to walk."

Feed the Earth/ How to be Unhappy

Feed the Earth:

here's some garden I'm preparing for the spring
tearing up junk mail, old newspapers, old jottings
putting on the hill
already made of weeds and plant debris
to be covered with dying tomatoes
weeds and
then
compost

feed the Earth
and the worms
and micro organisms will
do your rototilling for you

---

how to be unhappy:

want
wish
demand
wait for
count on
think you need
feel bad until you get

another person to
be different
than they are



ah,
what
hell to go with that insanity

and I did
that yesterday

what a pity

hours wasted
in
unnecessary
suffering

la,
la

hope I learned
my slow learner
dumb me
lesson

!!!!

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7 Essentials of Happiness

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Short Version:

1. Awakened Movement

2. Awakened Work & Play

3. Awakened Communication

4. Awakened Loving
a/ Share your toys
b/ Forgive
c/ Be present

5. Being in and with Nature

6. Healthy eating and living

7. Sense of humor



Longer Version:

1. Awakened Movement
a/ Slowing and noticing
b/ Variation and discovering
c/ Easing, enjoying, and healing
d/ Being present


2. Awakened Work & Play
a/ Know what's really important
b/ Listening
c/ Slowing down and noticing
d/ Being true to yourself



3. Awakened Communication
a/ Listening
b/ Silence
c/ Honesty
d/ Slowing down and noticing



4. Awakened Loving
a/ Sharing your toys
b/ Forgiving
c/ Listening
d/ The Work of Byron Katie



5. Being in and with Nature
a/ Outdoors every day
b/ Grow your own food
c/ Know gardens, trees, sky, waters
d/ Sensing our bodies as small nature



6. Healthy eating and living
a/ Real foods, organic, lots of raw
b/ Grow your own, and local, seasonal foods
c/ Sleep easily, happily
d/ Ongoing Learning



7. Sense of humor


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