Thursday, August 19, 2010

Argue, but not with Reality, or with your love

(Two men, John and Chris, on the Earth, above Sonoma Calif, playing with rocks even though they aren't kids anymore, or maybe they are, in part of their hearts/ souls/ bodies)

Once upon a time I read a book
just because the title was so obnoxious
I had to prove to my smart ass self
how ridiculous and assholish the author had
to be.

Not, for the first time in my life,
I was wrong, way wrong.

The book, and title were:
How to Argue & Win Every Time: At Home, At Work, In Court, Everywhere, Everyday

Looks like this:


Buy it if you want:

Here's what I remember:

The guys was cool, won a zillion good guy cases
for the environment,
or even taking on "unpopular" causes like Imelia Marcos.

And his methods were two that stood out:

One: when he wanted to center and clear his mind
and discover what he really needed to know
and
say,
he'd go out in
Nature,
take off his shoes, circle around
on the Earth
and let the truth
or insight come to him.

Two: when talking to the jury,
he used honesty,
as in:
"I'm really nervous, because I really want to win
this case for my client,
and I think this is really important,
and I'm afraid I won't give a good enough argument."

Or something like that.


And then,
he had a bit of sweet wisdom toward the end:

in an argument with someone you love:
Lose the Darned Argument.

Let her/ him be right.

Hey: wise up folks, remember the beaten down look on
your so-called "loved one's" face when you won
an argument.

Is that love: getting them that horrible look
and feeling?

Ans:
No.

So, hey:

dance in nature

speak truth

look at your loved one when arguing and think, feel and know:
what do I / we really want.

Good luck
Good love
Good Earth


Chris

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Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Another movement lesson, sort of advanced, sort of amazing

This is mainly, waking up feldenkrais blogspot dot com stuff,
but still
it could change your life
if
you want

or just
be a lot of fun




and hey:
let's do a poem, too;


rolling is rolling
and elbows can poke
another person
or push into
the ground
like a hand
and shift our weight
as
if

we were going to crawl

but in the lesson below
it's the changing from on the floor
to sitting
and

that's a big change

so play with it:
if you have the time
to enjoy
and learn

and don't expect it to be
"obvious"
unless it is

but once it works
it will change you
for
the rest of your life

really?

maybe
sure
probably

i don't know
if you really let it sink in
yeah
I think it will





Rolling to Sit: A graduate course

You can lie on your back and feel what this is all about: two shoulder blades on the floor, the back of your pelvis on the floor, the backs of your legs on the floor, some part of your arms resting down, down, gravity holding your self secure and calm.

How does your breathing go here?

What do you see in front of you?

What is the direction that seems “forward” to your pelvis and torso?

Ah, good.


Now, imagine this: you are sitting. You have somehow come to sitting from this lying on your back position. What direction does your head face now and at what are you looking? How is your torso facing and what is the position of your pelvis? Imagine this pelvis connection to the floor a bit more thoroughly: what parts press down, what parts are up from the floor, where does “forward” seem to be for the pelvis?

How is the spine connecting your head and pelvis in this imaginary sitting position?

Good.

There are a number of ways to get from on your back to your sitting position and this essay won’t go into them, but will suggest that a thorough and slow and almost endlessly delightful study in transitional possibilities from the lying down pelvis and head to the sitting pelvis and head is rich, rich, rich with learning delights.


And hey, another thought experiment: lie on your belly, and feel what is forward now, where are your eyes and nose pointed, what are your legs up and down to, where is your spine, how about your arms?

In this lying down position, it’s possible to come to sitting without using the arms, but why not be fully human and let the game be played as we would as a baby? So your arms are in what’s called “push up” position, and your head can come up and look at the world from any almost vertical axis and now the game: how to get to sitting from here?

Three games really: how to get to sitting look the same way with your head?

How to get to sitting looking to one side or the other?

How to get to sitting looking the way of “down,” the way your feet are presently pointed.

This can take a lot of slow thinking and experimenting and discovering.

All efforts with awareness in any of life are rewarded, and efforts such as this to discover transitional and functional movements like these can be highly rewarding.
Try ‘em and find out.



Now, for some rolling to sit that is a little like what can be found in the Alexander Yanai series, and a lot like what anyone who pays attention can discover who is willing to feel how gravity and their four limbs and the spine pelvis head thing cooperate.

We’ll start like this:

Rest propped up on your back, with your legs wide and easy, and your elbows holding up the top half of your torso and head in a vertical position. This is to say, you are half upright in head and chest, and the lower half of your back is on the floor.
Feel how the elbows holding you this way has all sorts of possibilities for a person/ child discovering all sorts of things about crawling, but for now, just shift a bit side to side and feel how one elbow and then the other supports most of the top half of you, including your head.

Have a little fun with this, and drop your torso a bit as you come through the middle, and come back up more as you shift your weight from one elbow to the other, always keeping your head vertical.

Then rest.

Come back to this propped position, and come with your weight more fully to your right elbow (we’ll cater to the world of right handers/ left footers for starts), coming enough to the right so that you can feel weight shift to the right side of your pelvis. And then come back.

Now do a kind of fun thing, where you shift your weight in a bit of an arc to the right and forward, so the head goes in an arc, and the weight on the pelvis shifts as if on a clock from 12 to 1 to 2 to 3 to 4 to 5 to 6 o’clock.

At six o’clock your weight could be forward enough so that you were sitting. (the right hand coming in handy somewhere along the way).

Play around with this. (Technical term: “fart around” with this.). Let the head arc to the right and then forward, and the pelvis rotate the same way and feel the legs provide the ballast as it were for this shift forward and up of the head and spine.

Notice the weight when your are sitting, and then coming back to the reclining position, notice the reverse shift in your pelvis and head.

Rest.


Now, maybe you recall an Alexander Yanai, when, on your back you scissors your legs one way to come more on your belly and the other way to coming to sitting over your elbow. Maybe you don’t. Either way is fine.

But, again, playing right elbowed/ left legged, from the reclining position, raise your left leg and bring it to the right over your right leg, and in this scissored position, roll the head and pelvis as before as you take the left leg back to the left, and see how sweetly and easily this goes.
Play/ “fart around” with this. Imagine, if you are a practitioner, guiding this movement either from behind the neck, or with the “free” arm, or with the “free” arm and the swinging leg. Realize how going slowly enough could teach a lot to ribs and sternum and head and chest and pelvis and weight shifting and gravity connecting and all that good stuff.

And rest.


Now, you are on your back, a baby, and you lift your left leg and fling it to the right. You roll mainly to your right side, but since you aren’t in a Feldenkrais lesson with your arms starting above your head, you trap your lower right arm under you.

Darn. This is annoying.
But, you feel a toy over there on the right side where your left foot is, and your head wants to come to it, and you swing your head that way, and your left leg swings back over to the left to counter-balance and get out of the way, and your left hand reaches down there for the toy and you have rolled up to sit through your elbow on the right side.
Yes, yes, the bending of the knees ways are “easier” in the world of rolling up to sit, and keeping the head even lower to the floor has a lot of amazing learning. Still, though, in the above you can sort of roll your head along the floor toward the toe near where the left foot landed over on the right there.

Isn’t this fun?

I hope so.

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Monday, August 16, 2010

the magic wand





the head is heavy
life is long
the pelvis is big
life is juicy

what more is there
to
say?

lots
but first:
sense the stick
the rod
the magic wand
the wee wee wonka
betrix and between

let is sway
let it play
have a waking up
day

yes

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Saturday, August 14, 2010

It's Early and I'm Late



Maybe I'm late
maybe i'm write here
right here
right
hear

listen
to the sounds
of fingers
typing
cars driving
birds birding
breath breathing

what are
you doing
now

do you know
how easy
it is
to love yourself
in
the present

how easy
it is
to love another person
in
the
present

if
yes
good

if no
practice

love
is an action

life
is movement

thought is movement

life is good

put all the pieces together
then
drop
the puzzle
and live

love
you

all you readers
and non readers
you

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Thursday, August 12, 2010

This story, that story, what's left



there could be a tired story
or
an ate too much too late story
or
just me
breathing and noticing it
or
not
just "me"
aware of gravity or
not
just ????
aware of the possibility of
always
anytime
making

this
shift

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Tuesday, August 10, 2010

it's late, i'm all alone, what does that mean?



it means people are in bed
can't be called

and i'm here
at the computer

and you
are
somewhere else
at least slightly later,
in the world of so called time

which does march along
or
so it
seems

day into night
night into day

gad
it's so boring to say
and so
relentless

and fun too
i guess
dreams
and that sinking
and the weirdness of
waking up

and then the game
to
wake inside of the ongoing
dream
of
"everyday" life

something like
that

what do you
think?

feel?

sense?

perceive?

intuit?


good for you.

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Monday, August 09, 2010

ready to pounce


happiness
waits
like a cat at
a rodent
hole

patient
alert
nothing else in
the world
to
do

just watching
alive
alert
ready

to pounce

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Saturday, August 07, 2010

something may be waiting, and can I wait also



do people have true
friends in their
lives

someone they can
be awake
with
share
the truth
take time
to really listen

that would be nice
in
my life

that would
be
nice

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Friday, August 06, 2010

now or nothing, yes

in a hurry
nothing
gets done

and when
we
die
nothing
is
all
over

good

Thursday, August 05, 2010

now or nothing, and now and nothing win/win

life is love
Indiana church

life is 
love

well
no
not for most 
of us
most of the 
time

but hey
what if
life
were 
love

what would that
be 
like?

ah
well
hey,
now is a good
time to 
feel our
way toward
that

what would
life
as
love
be
like
right 
now?

the question 
has been 
asked.

next:
to live
the 
answer

sweet
effort
one
and
all



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Wednesday, August 04, 2010

waiting



this life
waits for
us
always
always

we can move
we can create
we are as if gods
God

take your choice

and God
good old
God

could be just so
close
so close
right underneath that grouchy person's
frown
right beside the widow's tears
under the stars beyond the stars
of course
we all know that
but
here
too
here resting in our
breath
in the space between our breath
between our thoughts
between our vertebrae

waiting
wating
for us

to come home

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Tuesday, August 03, 2010

Poem a Day, First Day, the easiest we'll assume




A poem a day, ha
August 3, 2010

There you see it a date
And a possible Goal
Big fucking deal these
Goal
Thingies

And have you ever set out to
Write every day for a 100 days
From 9 to ten in the morning?
I succeeded at that, though
Let me tell you
A coupla Saturdays I really
Really didn’t want to

And have you ever set out to write a poem a day
For a month
A week
A year
I have
Didn’t succeed

So, the inner belief is
Like:
Fuck it
Why bother, this is going to
Fail

And is there any failure
Really possible
If awakening in the “effort”
And joy in the doing
Is really what it’s about?

So tune in tomorrow:
Maybe this can be done
At least for 40 days

Yeah, I’ll go that one:
40 days of poems
all for you
my love
all for
you

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For the Glory of God and our own Awakening

( health food store shining bug; friend after one sided lesson, can you tell which side?)

Life goes like this:

we are born
hmm
strange new world
air, breathing
gravity, we can fall, we can rise
light, we can (usually) see

sound we have been
having

and it's all
a fig tree
all a gift
all a lark

and on the computer
can we breathe?
sense bones and up
and down
and gravity

love the light
coming in

joy
to the sound
sounding along?

if so good.

if not, good,
but not as glorious
me thinks.


what about you?

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